Let’s talk about something real. Something that gets skipped over like that one auntie’s potato salad at the family cookout. Women love to talk about being pastors, but when we flip to Titus, the silence gets real loud. Now, before you throw your Bible at the screen, let’s actually sit with what the Word says.

What Does the Bible Say About Women Being Pastors?

First off, the Bible is clear about the structure of leadership in the church. In 1 Timothy 2:12, Paul says, “I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.” And before anybody starts talking about “that was just Paul’s opinion,” let’s not forget that Paul wasn’t just giving his two cents—he was writing under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit (2 Timothy 3:16).

When we look at the qualifications for pastors (or elders) in 1 Timothy 3 and Titus 1, the requirements include being “the husband of one wife.” Last time I checked, that’s a male-exclusive requirement.

Now, does this mean women don’t have a role in ministry? Absolutely not. We just need to make sure we’re playing the role that God actually assigned to us, not the one we assigned to ourselves.

Titus Ain’t to Be Ignored

You know what’s funny? Women will skip right over Titus 2 like it’s a traffic ticket in the mail. They’ll fight for pulpits but won’t fight for the very role the Bible outlines for them.

Titus 2:3-5 says:
“Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.”

Let’s sit with that for a second.

The Bible tells women exactly what to do. Teach other women. Be examples. Train younger women to love their families well. Be self-controlled. Pure. Kind. Home-focused. But instead of embracing that, we got folks out here fighting for pulpits while ignoring the actual work that’s been assigned.

It’s like Jesus said in Luke 6:46, “Why do you call me ‘Lord, Lord,’ and not do what I tell you?”

You want to lead a church, but won’t lead your home. You want to be a preacher, but won’t be a mentor. You want to be in the pulpit, but won’t be in your prayer closet. And the crazy part? The very thing you’re running from is the very thing God calls beautiful.

How to Actually Live Out Titus 2

Okay, so we read it. But how do we actually walk this thing out? Here’s some real-life application:

1. Be an Example

  • If you’re married, love your husband publicly and privately. Speak well of him. Serve him in a way that makes people say, “She’s different.”
  • If you’re single, live in a way that models purity, wisdom, and faithfulness. Don’t let culture dictate how you move.

2. Teach Younger Women

  • You don’t need a title to be a mentor. Find younger women in your church and pour into them. Show them what it means to walk with God.
  • If you’re a mother, be intentional about raising your daughters in the Lord.
  • If you’re a teacher, counselor, or just a big sister in the faith, use your influence to build up and encourage.

3. Get Your House in Order

  • Home is your first ministry. Make it a place of peace, love, and godliness.
  • Create an atmosphere where the presence of God is felt—not just on Sundays, but every day.
  • Teach your children the Word. Live it out in front of them.

4. Speak with Wisdom

  • Titus says to be “not slanderers.” That means no gossiping, no tearing down, no pettiness.
  • Use your words to build up. When younger women come to you, give them biblical advice, not just your opinion.

5. Embrace Your Role with Joy

  • Society tells us that being home-focused is oppression, but the Bible calls it wisdom.
  • Loving your husband and children, creating a home that reflects Christ, and mentoring the next generation isn’t less than—it’s essential.

Final Word

Listen, sis. I know culture says you need a stage, a mic, and a title to be effective in the Kingdom. But Jesus says the greatest among us is the servant (Matthew 23:11). God’s design for women isn’t small, outdated, or oppressive. It’s powerful, purposeful, and necessary.

So before we fight for what He didn’t assign, let’s master what He did. And if we truly love Jesus, let’s actually do what He says.

What are your thoughts? Drop a comment below—let’s talk about it!